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Using Self Talk to Manage Your Anger |
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Written by Better Kidz
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Friday, 10 October 2008 |
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Raising children is the toughest, most demanding, most rewarding job in the world. But the fact is, conflict comes with the territory. It's a natural part of living with one another. As parents we have a choise. We can either allow conflict to make family life just miserable, or we can use it ... use it to learn, to grow, to figure. out how to live together with mutual respect. When we use our conflict resolution skills, we are teaching our children how we really can have peace at home.
Self-talk can help you manage your anger. Here are some phrases you can say to yourself when you get angry and after you've handled your anger. What to tell myself when I am angry.
- I'm really mad but don't attack.
- Just count to 10 before you say anything.
- OK, don't blow this out of proportion.
- Just listen.
- If I lose control, things will only get worse.
- Tell how you feel and what you expect.
- I can work this out.
- Cool off. Take a few breaths.
- Just relax.
- Speak slowly, speak softly-take your time.
- OK, think it out.
If I didn't handle my anger positively:
- This takes practice.
- This is going to take a little time to work out.
- Things could be worse.
- .Relax.
- I did much better than last time.
- I'll do better next time.
If I handled my anger positively:
- I handled that well.
- Good job.
- I got through it without losing control.
- It works out better when I stay calm.
- I'm getting better and better at this.
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